What is loneliness? How do we perceive and deal with it? Can I be happy?
According to the English Oxford Dictionary the definition is:
Sadness because one has no friends or company: ‘feelings of depression and loneliness’
The fact of being without companions; solitariness: ‘the loneliness of a sailor’s life’
I agree that most people’s first thought is someone on their own and sad but you can be surrounded by family and friends and still feel lonely inside. But loneliness is a feeling, not just a state. On the other hand many people on their own are happy individuals. Being on their own gives them freedom to do what they want, when they want. But feeling lonely on the inside is a different side of the coin.
Personally speaking, I feel lonely even though I have a partner and friends but the image I portray on the outside is one of happiness. It’s not very often you’ll see me without a smile on my face. Inside I’m in turmoil and feel very isolated. I wouldn’t dare tell anyone how I feel. Why? Because I don’t think they would understand; just tell me to get a grip of myself and point out that I’m not on my own, so how could I possibly be lonely.
How do I shake this feeling? I’m not sure of the answer but I’ll keep struggling on, in the hope that one day I’ll find internal peace.